Volume 15 Number 5

Juggling your Leather Life

Many who read this column are involved in the Leather Life / kinky community / Alternative intimate activity groups / Etc. Yet all of these people have a: career life / Family life; (both blood family and gay family) / social life. How does your Leather life affect your daily life? How does each aspect of your daily life affect your Leather life?

Often if you are out at work, your Leather-gay life will occasionally surface. I find often that co-workers who cannot comprehend being 'gay'; have an easier time accepting the fact that you are within a rather masculine life style. Where I work, Our supervisor who assigns work calls asked me what the different color bandannas meant. When I inquired if he "Really wanted to Know", he replied with an emphatic, Yes ! So, I got a copy on-line of the "Comprehensive Hanky- Panky Code" Over the following few months many individuals asked me what my color today meant. Soon I had to hesitate answering. Some colors are not appropriately commented on in the workplace; nor in many straight circles; Or among people who have never had any exposure to anything kinkier than a comment about intimate oral contact.One of the touchiest subjects is the forest green; indicating "boy". It immediately invokes the dreaded Pedophile reaction ! If it comes up and I must answer, I explain that I am a " boy " ! ! Then they are really confused. Especially because of chronological age. So I compare it to the saying, "Good old boy network" to which they will often say "Oh, why didn't you say that? Then you can bring them to a sensible understanding. Including the nature of my personality and why often at work I will not automatically jump into the commanding role or position on a project. I don't tend to dominate others. Except of course when it involves me fastening something to or controlling the movement of: objects, with ROPE . Those times my rare Dom side comes out ! AND, you will shut-up while I tell you how it can, should, and Will; be done ! Now, Get over It.

Then there is the influence of your career on your Leather life. Just how often have you connected with someone who shares your greatest interests and you both find out that your careers only allow a rendezvous about every 6 to 9 months? It could make a person scream; even though that happens more often than any of us cares to admit. This can happen in the vanilla gay life, and does, but doesn't have the impact of the typical Leather life. A Dominant male in our society can and usallly does live a 24/7 Dom life. This will have them ready to control at a moments notice. Unfortunately for many submissives this is a difficult problem. They are often required as a male in our society to be a dominant. Although not of their nature they often learn how to take control and execute the actions necessary. Not ever however, in the Playspace! When things get put on hold for months it can take more than 2 or 3 minutes to change personal role 'conditioned' actions and move into their true natural space of a completely passive submissive boy/sub/slave. These submissives want to serve so much and offer to a DOM all the value that they can be that they need TIME, to shift gears from societal demands to the proper mental space where they and their Dom can exchange personal energy in a very positive manner. So when the actions are separated by many months and an opportunity presents itself, it isn't always easy or possible to get started in a minute or less.

Well now that I have started this topic it looks like I am going to need a few issues to comment on the other aspects of leather / daily life interactions. So for now I will sign off and consider the other aspects of this topic.

boy jeff H. MIlw., WI.
bdsmboy1971@sbcglobal.net  

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Daddy / boy weekend is April 18-19 At Napalese lounge, Green Bay
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Castaways M.C. of Milwaukee Beer/Soda Bust at Kruz on :
Sunday, April 13th 3-7 "Let the Bats swing"
Sunday, May 18th 3-7 "boots and Boxer(shorties)